Reach out . Now.

Adolescents are reckless and so they need supervision and guidance. They need boundaries within which they can explore their freedom. Is it because they’re not adults? Well, that would mean that adults are always right and don’t need any help with making decisions. We know that’s not true. We know how difficult it is to make decisions.

It’s true that their brains are not fully developed and they will make silly mistakes but the fact is that adolescents and adults both do that. The only difference is that adolescents take more risks due to raging hormones and so they need to be managed. They are going through a sensitive phase of their lives.

No matter how old people are, they take their own time to learn. Everyone has a different learning style and what works for one may not work for another. It may take years for one to learn something that another has mastered at a young age. A number of factors are responsible for these differences: genes, education, exposure, opportunities and will.

There are just too many things that one can’t change. One can’t change their parents, the way they were treated in their early years and the kind of education and opportunities they were provided. All these are a given in life. One has to learn to accept and embrace all that is beyond their control.

What remains in one’s control is how they make the best of what’s available. The awareness of what’s holding them back and the availability of help required to make the right changes should fill one with immense hope and gratitude. There’s so much that can be done. One must try everything they can to make peace with the past.

Mental Health Professionals help people gain the confidence and courage to rebuild their lives. They provide them with a safe environment to explore and confront their fears and limitations. Approaching a mental health professional can prove to be one of the best decisions for people who want to overcome obstacles of the past and face life boldly.

Help is available. Reach out. Now.

Kushal Pahuja, a mental health professional

In mess for a reason

Let’s not make a big deal
When they tell us how they feel;
They are not here to please us,
Let’s not make them nervous.

They are as clueless as we were,
Please understand, ma’am and sir;
Allow them to be silly,
Please don’t be a bully.

Gently make them aware,
You care and you’re going to be there;
In word and in action,
Let them know you’re open.

They’re under-construction;
In a mess for a reason.
Let them learn and grow,
Doesn’t matter how slow.

Let them explore,
And experience a little more;
Let them fail and fall too,
They can’t always win for you.

Kushal Pahuja